The Third Option is an on-going group program to build better marriages. It is designed for all married couples and can be used both as marriage enrichment or crisis intervention. For hurting couples, who see only two options (painful endurance or divorce) the third option means reconciliation. For ordinary couples, the program teaches them the skills they need to have happier, healthier marriages.
When couples are struggling they will say they have "tried everything" but what they usually mean is they have tried the same two extreme options over and over, never finding what works. (Example: they have stuffed their anger, or they have attacked with it. Neither will give them the marriages they want.) The THIRD OPTION is the middle healthy ground.
The Third Option combines skill-building workshops with sharing from mentor couples and a support group component. The atmosphere is warm and caring.
Is this counseling?
No. The Third Option is not counseling. It is an educational and support group where we learn and encourage each other along the way. However, we recommend participants seek counseling when appropriate. It is possible to do both.
How does the Third Option differ from counseling?
The Third Option is peer ministry and a psycho-educational program. It combines: a support group, mentor couples and workshops on relationship skills. Many couples will come to the Third Option rather than counseling because:
Many couples cannot afford counseling. Many have lost HOPE and therefore are not willing to invest in counseling but regain HOPE through the group. Many are resistive to counseling because of stigma, a bad experience, etc. but will come to an "educational" group and if they stay, will often decide to try counseling. The Third Option can be both a stepping-stone to counseling and an adjunct to it.